If there were one word to describe this amazingly special person, it would be sacrifice. Joy was always thinking of others before herself. She sacrificed herself for her children, husband, co-workers, friends, her family. Joy always had a smile , even in her most difficult hour. She was a cheerful-positive , hardworking , loving person to be around . She infected others with her style and upbeat attitude. Joy was a most loved wife , mother , friend that a person could have . Joy spent the last thirty years as a nurse , the last ten working with Veterans , helping them in anyway she could , always a strong advocate for them. This special person comes along once in a life time , and will truly be missed . Joy passed away at 55 years young, on Thanksgiving 11-24-2022 after battling multiple health issues . She took her last breath at home with her husband and two teenage children, holding their hands , fighting to the end . Joy we “Love You” and miss you so much , a special place in Heaven is reserved for you, my Love . May God Bless You and write you in the Lambs Book of Life. Love Jerry , Gabby and John-John.

Funeral arrangements were entrusted to England Family Mortuary, Inc.

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  1. Joy will forever be in our hearts. Her infectious smile and truly sincere personality left a last impression on everyone she met. I was blessed to meet her when I started at the VA and she instantly made me feel at home. There aren’t enough words in the dictionary to express how much her presence will be missed. She will forever live within our hearts and keep us safe from Heaven. Many deep condolences to her much loved husband and children.

  2. Joy was truly a wonderful mother and person. She truly put her family first in everything she did. That was apparent in all the events that I was able to see and speak with her at. She will be cherished in our hearts forever. ❤️

  3. Joy is one of the brightest lights you could ever be fortunate enough to know. She leaves everyone better than when she found them. She could always be counted on to lift others up and was totally selfless, always thinking of others. She was an Angel on this earth. I have never met such a strong woman- what an amazing example of faith, love and kindness. Joy I miss you!

  4. Joy was a friend of mine. Or was she my sister? Or my mother? She was everything! We shared so many confidences and secrets. And we laughed and laughed until we cried and couldn’t catch our breath. I loved Joy. She was a once in a lifetime friend. She tried so hard to stay healthy. She loved her children, Gabby and John John and her husband, Jerry completely. She was a very proud Mama and Wife. I will never forget Joy.❤️

  5. Joy is not just her name, but the very essence of who she was and what she shared with all of those around her. Her spirit was so joyful, loving, caring and selfless. She made everyone around her a better person. She made me a better person. She was such a beautiful person, inside and out. I admired her on so many levels. Miss you Joy!!! Sending love and prayers for your family!

  6. It would be a disservice to say I knew Joy as much as she was loved. She radiated positivity and was an example of what kindness and love should be. My thoughts today are with her family, her friends, and those that loved her. I hope that she is remembered for what we should all aspire to be…..

  7. Joy is my miracle woman, a true friend and an amazing person. I feel very blessed and lucky to know Joy . We connected so well at a deeper level. Joy could read people’s mind.
    My prayers and thoughts are with family
    I am missing you Joy ♥️

  8. Joy was a fighter till the end. I had the pleasure of being her hemodialysis nurse while she was in the hospital. I enjoyed getting to know her story, seeing her recover from ICU and eventually discharging home. She had such an amazing attitude, positive and pleasant, and her love for her family and her dog was very obvious. Seeing Jerry with Joy impacted the way I approach my own marriage. I saw real and true unconditional love. My deepest condolences goes out to the family. May Joy Rest In Peace and watch over us from above.

  9. I want to say Joy was one of the kindest , gentlest , most positive persons I have ever met . Knowing her for the last five years and watching her go through the most extreme physical health issues . She is an example of selflessness and living for her family , she will truly be missed by myself and many others. Joy explemplifies what all of us should aspire to be . God Bless you and your family . You are an inspiration for all of us.

    • Thank you, Joy was truly a beautiful spirit, one that often walked silently through life , often missed by many . I am honoured to be her soul mate , I miss her ,❤️🙏.

  10. One of the sweetest ladies I’ve ever known! She oriented me when I came to San Diego from the Houston VA in 2015. She greeted me with kindness and always had a positive attitude. I used to tease her with a song “joy and pain” by Rob Bass”i used to sing to her and she would always laugh.she often mentioned to me that her husband was the silver back and the protector of her family. She often accompanied her father to his medical appointments which he was my patient. I could see she didn’t feel well, but always pushed through. Rest in peace my friend. You have touched and inspired more lives that you could not imagine through your kindness and the way you presented yourself as a true lady, dedicated wife, mother and daughter. Rest in your angelic state, it was my true pleasure to be in your presence.

  11. Everyday that goes by without you my Love seems impossible , I miss you my terribly , the suffering you endured was beyond comprehension. I cry out daily , asking God , WHY? Thirty years together was not long enough. I am grateful tho’ it was with me , you are the one who see’s life the way it should be. I am thankful the greater powers placed you in my life. Many will not know you , you were the silent one passing them by , you are a blessing that few will understand. I Love you so much , my pain is deep , I pray you are safe and loved. I always protected you , but you made me a better man, a better person, you salvaged me and I am in your debt. Thank you for our time together , I Love You my friend, my wife, my Love , may God Bless you and keep you safe, till we meet agin My Love. Your husband Jerry (Dad).

  12. ‘You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead, they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in Heaven.’ Matthew 5:13-16
    Salt and light are both meant to flavor and illuminate other things and not itself. Joys was salt to others by living her life to serve and bless other people with a loving spirit. In working with Joy through the years, I did not witness her ever complain about her tasks. Instead, she would smile and laugh with her co-workers and patients. An example of this would be when I was behind schedule in clinic seeing patients. I would be feeling frustrated, stressed, and non-productive. While in the next room I would hear Joy checking in my patient. She would be joking, laughing, and making that person’s day worthwhile and enjoyable. As well as setting up our clinical encounter for success. I also never heard Joy complain about her family life. But she would share how grateful she was for her husband’s support. Her pride as a mother beamed whenever she would speak about her children.
    As light to the world, she brought literal joy and hope to so many people she encountered in her daily life. Also, Joy gave me hope in one of the most difficult times in my life. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was feeling alone and helpless. Joy shared with me her heroic story of not only surviving breast cancer but saving her son’s life. She relied on her faith in God and prayer, much like her mother, to get through all of her challenges. Shining her light of faith and sharing God’s unconditional love strengthened my own faith and gave me courage and hope.
    Her absence at work is always felt. As though food lost its flavor, or the light became dimmer. But remembering the faithful Christian witness that Joy embodied gives me guidance on how to be the ‘salt and light of the world’ that God intended us to be.
    I pray her soul is with her dearly departed mother in Heaven. ‘Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May the souls of all the faithful departed, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace.’

    • Thank You for those beautiful words , she was truly a treasure , a more amazing selfless person there could never be. She was the embodiment of salt and light. I miss my Joy .

  13. For several years, Joy would not infrequently help cover the check-in of patients for my panel of Veterans. She truly embodied the nobility of her name with enthusiasm and kindness. I cannot imagine the loss felt by those nearest to her. May the peace of Christ comfort you. Thank you for sharing Joy with us. Her memorably is indelibly etched on our hearts.

  14. Joy , My Love , even though these are just words on a page , I want you to know what a special person you are to me . For thirty years you were my best friend , my confidant , my Love . I miss your touch , your smile , your laughter . I miss you listening to my stories at night , I miss holding you . I want you to know I am still here and will never leave you , my Love for you grows very day , my respect for you is endless . Your infinite sacrifice for others will not be forgotten , I am so proud to call you my wife , my friend , my Love . My prayer for you now is to be Loved , safe , happy , and full of light . Thank You mom for being in my life and Loving me . Love always your husband and friend forever.

  15. Joy , My Love , today is two months you have passed , I know many have forgotten and moved on , today I love you more than ever , my pain of losing you does not subside . You were the most special wife and friend one could have . Please know , I will never forget our thirty years of amazing life together . Many will never experience what we had , you are the embodiment of what God seeks for us to be, Love , Compassion, Empathy , Friendship. Not many will know your true self , I was one of the fortunate ones . I Love You forever Joy , Thank You again my Love , I miss you Dearly . Love forever Jerry

  16. Joy, Here I am again My Love , missing You. Brought you fresh flowers again today , played some ballads for you that you always liked at work . Kids are doing their homework , with difficulty of course , yet somehow they work their way through , lol. I Love you my Sweet , you were my balance in life . After thirty years together we were just getting to the best part , but the good Lord thought it was time for you to come home . One day , I pray we will meet again and this time it’ll be forever. I am forever grateful you were my Love , I miss you baby , hope to see you in my dreams tonight . Stay safe , be happy , be loved . Love, your husband Jerry

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